"Lord, Remove The Other Person!" Part 1

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

"Lord, Remove The Other Person!" Part 1

"Therefore I will block her path with thornbushes; I will wall her in so that she cannot find her way. She will chase after her lovers but not catch them; she will look for them but not find them. Then she will say, I will go back to my husband as at first, for then I was better off than now." Hosea 2:6-7

What are you facing in your marriage? Is your husband or wife home, but have you been told that they are not happy, or you are aware by different signs that something is happening to your spouse’s behavior and actions? Are you facing severe marriage problems right now? Your beloved spouse may be fantasizing about another relationship or they are being tempted or they may be in the midst of an affair. You may be separated, divorced, or your spouse may be talking about marrying the other person.

Every day we are being asked to, "Please pray that the other person in my spouse's life be removed. I keep praying that they will go back to their own spouse or pray that my spouse will not marry the other person." The letters and emails we receive are written by devastated spouses whose mate has been tempted, fallen into sin and into Satan's trap to destroy another person, a marriage and so many family members, not counting all the people who you know through church or work. May you keep your heart and mind focused on who the real enemy is during this devastating drama that is being played out with so many different scenes and characters.

I must remind you regularly that your husband or wife and the other person have been tempted by sin, blinded, deceived, tricked by Satan's schemes to destroy your spouse and many others as many people are watching from the sidelines. Satan is the enemy. Never forget who your enemy really is. Beware knowing that Satan wants to attack you with fear, hopelessness and ideas of confronting or spying on your spouse or the other person. Always ask yourself, "What would Jesus do?"

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." John 10:10

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:10-12

What can you do? You can pray. There is such power in prayer. Prayer is the secret to marriage restoration and healing family relationships. Never forget how much was accomplished throughout the Bible by people praying. That is why you must pray now and then pray that you and your spouse will be able to pray about everything after your marriage is restored. When your marriage is restored, ask your husband or wife, “Do you mind if I thank the Lord for our food? Do you mind if I pray with you for our children or blessings on your employment or regarding a certain problem?”

Your spouse may say no at first, but keep praying that the Lord opens the door that you can pray “short” prayers to the point that they will also pray with you! What a day of victory for the Lord and your marriage.

The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their cry. Psalm 34:15

You may have to pray together for the Lord to “remove the other person” from your spouse’s life. This is imperative to know when you are in the process of marriage restoration. The other person or the enemy, Satan, will try to stir up the other relationship again. You must stand firm in the Lord and pray against the temptations of the lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes and the pride of life. Your Lord can break all the soul ties and strongholds in your spouse's life. You need to pray first for your spouse's salvation, being filled with the Holy Spirit and total surrender to their Savior and Lord, Jesus Christ.

"Is any one of you in trouble? He should pray...The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5:13, 16

We need to pray for that other person's salvation. Pray for that other person to go back to their own marriage, if there is one. The majority of the “other people” are divorcing or have divorced their spouse. What they need is to find that Jesus Christ is the answer for all their previous marriage problems and pray that the Lord will sever and destroy any and all ungodly relationships with your spouse or ungodly friends that are a bad influence on your beloved spouse. Remember that Jesus was talking to the adulterous woman with kindness in order to lead her to repentance. There was salvation for her if she would leave her "life of sin," and stop living in adultery which meant that she would return to her husband instead of being stoned to death!

Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" "No one sir," she said. "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin." John 8:10-11

(To be continued)

Be encouraged,



Charlyne Steinkamp